I am so pleased to have the author of one of my favorite blogs, ChristianSuperMom, guest blogging on my home base today. She is not only an inspirational woman of faith, but an amazing mother and wife. Thank you Rosann for sharing, and readers- please go check her out.
Motherhood is one of the most demanding, yet fulfilling jobs a woman can be blessed with. And a blessing it truly is. But our reality as mothers and wives is filled with constant sacrifice. Our time and energy tends to be completely devoted to caring for our family.
But what happens when we forget to care for ourselves? How do we deal with burnout when it sets in? The truth is, we aren’t effective in our role of motherhood when our physical, mental, and spiritual tanks are running on empty.
What’s worse, is when we have daughters who are watching our every move, learning through our example what it looks like to be a woman, a wife, a mom, and God’s child.
When it’s not the norm for us to do things for ourselves, knowing what needs the most attention is often difficult to discern.
An easy way to figure out how to care for yourself is to consider three key components to your overall health and wellness.
Let’s start by looking at our physical health.
Our body is like a well-tuned machine that knows what to do at very precise moments, keeping us alive with each heartbeat. Think about how much our body does just to pump blood through our heart and to all the other organs vital to our survival. It’s really a miracle we’re alive, isn’t it? Of course, the mechanics are prone to failure or mishaps when not properly cared for.
When our physical tank is empty we can fall victim to obesity, a multitude of health problems, lack of energy, and poor self-esteem.
Fuel your physical well-being with:
- Exercise. Do some form of exercise at least three days per week. If you struggle to find time or just can’t afford a gym membership, consider putting your child or children in the stroller or wagon and going for a brisk walk or jog. The fresh air will clear your mind and moving your body will get your blood pumping and help strengthen your heart.
- Sleep. Strive for 8 hours of sleep each night. If this isn’t possible, try to schedule time for a nap every day or every couple of days. A Sunday afternoon family nap can be quite refreshing to everyone in the home.
- Nutrition. Choose to eat healthy foods and limit consumption of those pre-packaged items. Check labels. Can you pronounce the ingredients? Do they come from natural sources? If not, put it back on the shelf and go for something more natural. The most nutritious foods to eat are found on the outer aisles of the grocery store. And those foods are power foods. In other words, they fuel your body giving you more energy, beautiful skin, a strong heart, fantastic vision, and a healthy digestive system.
Next, let’s look at fueling our mental health.
Keeping our mental health in check is vital to our long term health and happiness as women. When we don’t challenge our brain on a regular basis we increase our risk of developing Alzheimer’s Disease later in life. If live each day putting our mental health on the back burner, we may find ourselves consumed by unhealthy emotions or even sinking into a deep depression.
Fuel your mental well-being with:
- Continued Learning. Find a way to challenge your brain every day. There are many ways you can do this. Enroll in an online college course to learn a new skill. Read a book concerning a topic of interest you’d like to know more about. If you enjoy games, BrainTeasers is a website that offers a variety of mind challenging exercises.
- Creative Passion. What are your hobbies? If you don’t have one, find one. Some ideas of creative hobbies are scrapbooking, sewing, knitting, quilting, painting, gardening, writing, or photography. Schedule time each week to immerse yourself in something you love to do.
- Deal With Emotions. Unresolved feelings of resentment or anger only lead to negative energy and heartache. Spend time talking with your spouse, a trusted friend, or your Pastor. Write in a journal. Pray for God to give your wisdom and a forgiving heart over a situation brewing. Get your emotions off your chest. Accept them. Deal with them. Then move on. The past is the past. Choose to create a better day today.
And finally, let’s talk about our spiritual health.
Life isn’t always easy. In fact, many of us are faced with daily turmoil or challenges too difficult to endure without Christ as our safe haven. Unfortunately, when we don’t fuel our spiritual tank we feel empty and it becomes harder and harder to keep our eyes focused on God’s promises. Without our spiritual nourishment, we lose our sense of joy, and our ability to walk and live by faith.
Fuel your spiritual well-being with:
- Bible Study. Be intentional and schedule time alone each day to spend time in the presence of the Lord, studying His word. (I’ve found this to be most successful early in the morning before the kids wake up) God speaks to us in many ways, but one of the most powerful ways is through His word. Struggle with reading the Bible? Find a good life application study bible. Your local Christian book store can point you in the right direction. Another effective resource is to find a daily devotional book which can help bring the Bible to life, for your circumstances.
- Prayer. This is so important to our attitude, our ability to be patient and loving, our faith, and our overall spiritual health. Spend time every day in effective prayer. A great time to do this is right before digging into God’s word for your daily Bible study. Keep a prayer journal and refer to it often so you are less likely to let your mind wander during prayer.
- Worship. Go to church once a week to get in a group worship setting. This can be very effective in filling your spiritual tank through a Pastor’s sermon, soul-inspiring music, and fellowship with other Christian’s. During those weeks when church isn’t an option due to illness in the home or some other unforeseen circumstance, tune into a Christian internet or radio sermon. Another option is to check your church website for a recorded version there.
Remember friends, it’s not selfish to take care of yourself and your needs. In fact, by doing so you are giving the gift of yourself filled with joy, compassion, and love to your children and your husband. I assure you, they will reap many benefits from that special gift. Oh yes, and imagine how great you’ll feel and how bright God’s light will shine through you and in you when you aren’t running on empty!